On a scale of ten, how much do you rate yourself for handling the relationships that you have around? Now, the question arises what kind of relationship do I have to rate. Because you might rate yourself 9 on 10 in a relationship with friends and 5 on 10 in a relationship with family or maybe some other scenario, right? We know how complex it is to score a ten in all kinds of relationships all at one time.
We can definitely help you improve your relationships if you keep following this blog till the end. You might not master it all at once, but we assure you to reach one step closer to it. Relationships affect other projects in our lives and the direction of our life, so we need to pay keen attention to them.
Relationship with Family
You would disagree less on the fact that this is one of the most complicated yet most fulfilling relationships in all the other relationships of humans! There is always a time when it gets super hard to make your point in the family or make other family members understand. And we know how frustrating and annoying that could be.
In India, many of us live together with our families, and we cannot be indifferent to what’s going around; even if we try to, it just doesn’t happen.
So, in that case, what it should be like?
- The very first rule is, Stop being part of the conversation that does not involve you or your matters unless asked for. This would not only cut you off from being in unnecessary chaos but also save you time.
- Don’t make assumptions about any family member that blocks your mind, and don’t use it as a part of your fight that can lead to mindless talk just to win an argument.
- Family dynamics change faster than a blink of an eye, kid you not, so please stop feeding old thoughts from previous fights because they are of no help.
- Accept the bigger picture, that your family always wants the best for you even when you cannot see it for yourself, so don’t get their intentions wrong. Please take it as a bottom line for any fight or an argument.
Relationship with Friends
When everything falls apart, we need our friends to be there, but what happens when there is something that is not working out between friends and us? Relationships with friends are the easiest out of the other ones. But unfortunately, growing up complicates this one too.
So, in that case, here are some tips:
- Try to share what’s going on in your life and listen to what’s going on in theirs.
- Group catchups do not always mean quality time. You need to give individual attention to bonds that need it.
- It’s essential to appreciate the achievements. Do not feel shy to tell your friends how proud of them you are when they are growing and excelling, and don’t worry; you will too receive it at your time.
- Stop taking offences easily. Enjoy good humour and try not to judge the other person’s intentions in every little thing.
- Make efforts to meet or talk, don’t always leave it upon others to do that for you. Also, please don’t get mad when they cannot make it up for the plan, try to understand and don’t let this hurt your ego.
- Never take your friendships for granted because you might realise the importance of your friendships only after losing the bond. So, keep reaching out to your friends whenever you can.
Relationship with Your Partner
One area of relationship that adds the most to our lives and drains us the most. Relationships with our partners undoubtedly have the most significant impacts on our brains, bodies, and lives. Nothing compares to the joy of a happy romantic relationship, but nothing can also match the agony of being in an unhappy relationship with your partner.
How can you improve your relationship with your partner?
- It’s always a good idea to make that person a part of your life, not your entire life. Usually, we get obsessed with that one person and try directing all our energies towards that one person, which results in losing other relationships and putting too much pressure on one person.
- Show gratitude you feel for the presence of that person in your life.
- Encourage each other to reach their best potential, support their work schedule, and respect that.
- Give some space to each other by letting them be. It’s not always essential for you to to be around them or vice versa.
- Express more often than expecting things in your head.
- Find ways to express yourself by gifting small things or writing a love letter, or taking them to their favourite eating place, anything that works the best for you.
- Bonding with a person by learning something together adds up a lot in the relationship.
- Communication is always the key; you can always talk things out. Do not make old fights part of your current conversation. It irritates the partner and stops the growth of the relationship overall.
Relationship with Yourself
The foundation of all the relationships in our lives is the relationship with ourselves. One cannot have good relations with others if one does not have a good relationship with oneself.
The kind of conversation we have with ourselves decides what connection we have with others. It is essential to enjoy our own company because people won’t enjoy our company unless we don’t enjoy ours.
There are soo many ways to improve your personal space and get along well with yourself.
- It is important to know how you feel when you are alone. If any kind of negative emotion is there, it needs to be addressed.
- Motivate yourself. You need to be your own cheerleader.
- Write journal. Writing out your feelings is like acknowledging your being. It is one of the very good ways to know yourself better.
- Be more conscious of your actions and try to know what does and what doesn’t work for you.
- Learn a new skill more often.
- Meditate and practice gratitude
- Dance on your favourite playlists
The last tried and tested method that we would like to share with you is to list out any 10 good things about the person who is troubling you or making you upset. Every morning when you wake up or at night when you are about to sleep, just say those 10 good things about that person; we can bet you on this, your entire relationship with that very person will change.
We hope this blog helped you a little. Start by inculcating one thing for each relationship and see how things start to change for you.